Self Esteem

/Self Esteem

Do you feel unlovable or unworthy?

Self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem. Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. You may be carrying a distorted picture of yourself within your mind.

Counselling and/or life coaching is an excellent strategy to improve self esteem. Learning techniques to prevent negative self-talk will have lasting and positive effects.

Please enjoy the following articles which discuss aspects of Self Esteem. If you would like to work with Helen, make an appointment by calling 0439 889 969.

The 4 most damaging behaviors in relationships

By |2018-12-18T11:43:53+00:00December 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Self Esteem|

Criticism Defensiveness Contempt Stonewalling Criticism over time in a relationship will wear it down and erode it's self esteem. This behaviour doesn’t make for a happy relationship.   Criticism is when you globally wrong your partner.  For example, “you always ignore me in the afternoons” or “you never care about me.”  It’s an attack which says there is something globally wrong with your partner.  This is not supportive in a relationship and if it occurs regularly over time it is corrosive. Now there are times when feedback is necessary which is not criticizing but complaining.  Complaining is feedback and is not corrosive.  For … Read More

Are you addicted to adrenaline? From Executives to Housewife’s

By |2018-08-17T17:41:28+00:00August 17th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

You may instantly reply with NO. I don’t jump out of planes or need to climb mountains and ride fast motorbikes. You may be addicted to adrenaline without even realizing it. A few examples: • Are you constantly late so then you must rush? • Constantly checking emails, social media and booking a tight schedule? • You leave things to the last minute e.g. A project or preparation for work • You set unrealistic timelines and must push yourself to complete.? • Cleaning your house, doing your garden you over exert yourself and do too much in a short amount of time? … Read More

Identifying your critical tapes that create stress

By |2018-06-14T12:40:08+00:00June 14th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

How willing are you to acknowledge unhelpful attitudes and beliefs that you may have? Some of these may be unexamined ways of thinking about yourself and your life that were given to you by parents and other early caregivers. They may not really be your attitudes and values, but they were put there so early on, it is hard to tell that they do not belong with you. You can recognise them because they are often distorted, exaggerated, self-critical, or self-defeating “tapes” that re-play over and over again in your head, causing personal anxiety, self-doubt, stress and depression. Some examples are: Rigidity … Read More

Acceptance is a choice, not a feeling.

By |2018-05-02T11:51:24+00:00April 27th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Acceptance is a journey that starts with a conscious decision. When we are suffering we have pain.  There is a gap between our reality and what we want.  When acceptance is lived it softens the pain.  A death, divorce, loss of a job, any change that has occurred that we are struggling with.  We may not like it or want it but its out of our control.  What is in our control is how we accept it. There are tools that can help us progress, but the process is unique for each one of us. You may need to try some different … Read More

Create “Your Best Life”

By |2018-03-20T14:24:45+00:00March 20th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Life Coaching, Self Esteem|

To create your ultimate life takes commitment, time and daily practice.  Intuition is crucial as you will trust your inner voice and what is right for you. Start each day with the intention of being intuitive, of listening to your inner voice. A great way to do this is by using affirmations, which are positive statements that we repeat over and over again. Affirmations can be used in any area of your life. They reinforce to your mind the outcome that you are looking to achieve. For example, choose an affirmation such as ‘I love and approve of myself’ or one relating … Read More

Are you living from the head up?

By |2017-12-13T17:06:29+00:00December 13th, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Are you numb, show little emotion, going thru the motions and don't feel much? You may be living from the head up which means you overthink and are just living in your head.  A monkey mind? We sometimes do that due to trauma, extended period of stress, as a child not being able to say what you fell and think. Its fixable if you want to.  A great place to begin is acknowledging what you're doing and deciding you want to change.  Sometimes you may need support with therapy or you may be able to work on this yourself. Many people need … Read More

Living with limitless clarity

By |2017-10-10T11:31:12+00:00October 10th, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Life Coaching, Newsletter, Self Esteem|

We often talk about being accomplished and what we have achieved.   I believe its not the quantity and how much you have achieved but whether you have accomplished the right things, for you. Not for your mother, father, partner, but for you. Imagine spending years on the wrong things?   And yes, it happens for many of us where you are trying to please others. FACT: pleasing others doesn't work long term. It's essential that you live with clarity, your clarity and what makes your heart sing what makes you feel happy, peaceful contentment and feeling joy and balance. How do … Read More

How to move on after a breakup

By |2017-08-23T14:12:07+00:00August 23rd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Self Esteem|

There is know one easy way to move on after a breakup.  For most people its extremely painful, heartbreaking and rocks you to your core.  Its a journey that starts with a conscious decision that you have let go. There are tools that can help you progress, but the process is unique for each one of you. You may need to try some different approaches to find what is right for you. It requires patience and might take months or even years. The process of acceptance of your new reality  takes hard work and commitment. You may feel uncomfortable at times during … Read More

Stop having a victim mentality

By |2017-08-23T13:44:06+00:00August 23rd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

So, what is a victim? A victim is someone who feels hard done by and that they have little or no control over there life. A victim is a person who believes that something or someone or the past is externally controlling their life. In this headspace, you feel sorry for yourself and you sit and have a pity party, visit pity land, and bring in evidence to support why you are so hard done by. Being a victim sometimes just feels so comfortable, so usual so familiar.   Perhaps you have been like this for as long as you can remember … Read More

Habits and motivation are a peanut butter sandwich

By |2017-06-02T14:55:23+00:00June 2nd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

A peanut butter sandwich is best with two pieces of bread and the filling in the middle just like your life. See the relevance, NO? I don’t either but hopefully I have your attention. Life sometimes is tough and other times fabulous, that’s life. We do not have control as to what goes on out there however we do with what goes on within us and how we think. You choose decisiveness, anger, procrastination, blame, strength, honour, empowerment, and you get to choose how it will be in a situation for you. How does this connect with habits and motivation? These skills … Read More