Resolve Marriage Issues Early

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Resolve Marriage Issues Early

Working with couples for 10 years now I often see a theme that occurs in relationships. The relationship is no longer a priority, as important as it use to be.  If this continues long term it can be damaging to the quality of the relationship and the longevity.

Focusing on some very practical easy skills can create enormous change in your relationships if you do not leave it too late to try.  Prepare/enrich is a terrific resource to begin making some changes.

DAILY DIALOGUE AND DAILY COMPLIMENTS

Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your activities that day. The focus of this dialogue should be on your feelings about each other and your lives together. Set aside five minutes per day to discuss the following: 

• What did you most enjoy about your relationship today?

• What was dissatisfying about your relationship today?

• How can you be helpful to each other?Married couple whom is struggling learning thanks to marriage counselling

Daily Compliments help you focus on the positive things you like about each other. Every day give your partner at least one genuine compliment. These can be general (“you are fun to be with”) or specific (“I appreciate that you were on time for the concert”). 

COMMUNICATION SKILLS TO INCREASE INTIMACY

1.  Give full attention to your partner when talking. Turn off the phone, shut off the television, make eye contact. 

2. Focus on the good qualities in each other and praise each other often.

3. Be assertive. Share your thoughts, feelings, and needs. A good way to be assertive without being critical is to use “I” rather than “You” statements. (e.g. “I worry when you don’t let me know you’ll be late” rather than “You are always late”). 

4.  Avoid criticism.

5.  If you must criticize, balance it with at least one positive comment.(e.g.“I appreciate how you take the trash out each week. In the future can you remember to also wheel the trash can back from the end of the driveway?”).   

6. Listen to understand, not to judge. 

7.  Use active listening. Summarize your partner’s comments before sharing your own reactions or feelings. 

8. Avoid blaming each other and work together for a solution. 

9. Seek counselling. If you are not able to resolve issues, seek counselling before they become more serious

By |2018-05-02T12:36:10+00:00May 2nd, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling|

About the Author:

Helen Harrison from Power of Change Counselling & Coaching is a professional and accredited counsellor. She does Individual and Marriage Counselling. Specialises in self-esteem, relationships, stress and anxiety. She is a facilitator of Workshops, Author and Mediator. Her aim is to provide safe, supportive and confidential counselling in a peaceful setting allowing you to explore who you have been, who you are and who you may want to be. Her private practice is in Thornlands in Redlands City. Ph 0439 889 969 Email helen@powerofchange.com.au www.powerofchange.com.au