The following articles provide information about counselling and have been written by Helen from her Redlands base. Helen has been helping clients offering counselling services throughout Redland City for many years. Helen is now located at Mandala House in Cleveland. It’s a great location, near Raby Bay and a short walk from the Cleveland RSL and the local shopping strip.
Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper. Peter Hooper is the legal practitioner Director of Brisbane Family Law Specialists Pty Ltd trading as Hooper Family Lawyers. Peter has been a Queensland Law Society Family Law Accredited Specialist since 2007. He’s been in the Redlands for about 10 years now. I felt it was important to have a lawyer on the show to educate and inform the listeners about separation. Peter explained that... Separation under the law requires three things. That there's an intent to separate by one party. A communication of that intent to the other party. And then acting upon it. If somebody decides the … Read More
Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym. Introducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes Two Dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, DV (domestic violence) and sexual abuse. A brilliant podcast was recorded, and this blog is a small sample of what was discussed. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected from myself, then I'm going to look outside of myself for comfort and then use something or someone if I have no other skills … that's addiction”. “So, if I'm … Read More
Move your baggage for a happier marriage. Many people live with baggage, events that have happened in their lives, and never come to peace with them. Not had closure, healing, and acceptance. You have not processed the emotional component of events that have occurred in your life, particularly when you were younger. This is life with not much baggage and a person who is thriving in their marriage. Your breathing is normal, and muscles are soft. You are present in the now You can and do enjoy pleasure and joy You can cope and enjoy change You are grounded and centred You … Read More
Can a marriage last with no communication? As you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication. In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. Perhaps this is happening for you: Lost Intimacy Personal cost: Feeling isolation, sadness, low self-esteem and confidence, rejection, low self-worth, resentment, worry, anxiety to name a few. Anger Issues The personal cost to the individual on the receiving end: Tense, hurt, miserable, resentful, torn, weary, lonely, uneasy, restless, insecure, and more. The personal cost to the individual with the anger: unhappy, ashamed, confused, guilty, hostile, regretful, … Read More
Here are some reasons you may avoid confrontation: Your family of origin did not do confrontation Fear of disapproval and rejection You are a martyr; you sacrifice yourself for others. You're a pleaser you look for love out there by doing and pleasing others. You are a masked person; you adjust yourself depending on who you are talking to. Learn to say ‘no’, step by step. You will love yourself more when you set boundaries and allow yourself to say ‘no’. Start with small things and practice how to do it. Say ‘no’ to anything that hurts you physically, emotionally, mentally, or … Read More
Are you living with a man child? What is a man child? A man child is an individual who is immature for their age. Sometimes men who were overly nurtured as children and their parents protected them to a point where they did not get to experience disappointment and consequences due to making some mistakes. Teaching a child to think that he is always right is never to blame and does not have to handle tasks and responsibilities either at home or at school literally stunts his maturity and growth as an individual. Parents take protective measures to make sure their child … Read More
Are you a lonely wife or husband? If you are lonely in your marriage it's painful and it hurts, and you wonder how you got here. What does it look like? Your both at one place together yet you cannot connect with each other. You feel awkward and uncomfortable being in the same room together. You are not physically, mentally, or emotionally connected. When you do connect it may be hostile, defensive, argumentative and you start assuming things and taking things very personally. You both no longer share your feelings with each other. How did you get here? Many reasons.... Lack of together … Read More
Want your partner to express emotion? When partners can’t express their emotions, it can erode the marriage. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities, and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. Without emotion in your marriage, this erodes trust, security, intimacy, and closeness, and it's very painful if you’re on the receiving end of it. If a partner is not sharing emotions like sadness, loss, or grief, the relationship doesn’t become a haven for dealing with the deeper issues that occur in marriage. I regularly work with individuals and … Read More
Ways to make marriage fun again. Having no fun in your marriage is slowly killing it and I see firsthand how it is affecting the couples I work with. It's putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire. Understanding that you need to bring fun back will make for a much happier empowered marriage. 10 Ideas to start bringing the fun back into your marriage: Prioritise your marriage Are you in a rut, too much of a routine and habits and no room, want or time to put into your marriage? If you want to have … Read More
Can you really trust your partner again? Marriage needs trust and without it, it's very difficult to have a harmonious empowered marriage. Being able to trust your partner is the most important part of being in a relationship. Trust generally is the act of placing confidence and being able to depend on someone or something. Your life’s experiences can impact your ability to trust others. The issue of trust and relationships focuses on the question of whether the partners are faithful and honest enough to one another. I see trust and marriage very much like a garden that you attend to every day. … Read More
