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Couples counselling creates a safe environment for couples to talk through issues within the relationship.

Couples counselling is not a test but a place where couples can become clear about what is happening between them.

Helen has helped hundreds of couples, throughout the Redlands to work through difficult times. Helen’s private office in Cleveland is a haven for couples undergoing counselling, helping couples to enjoy a happy partnership or end a difficult relationship.

The following blog posts provide information to help couples. If you would some more personalised strategies, contact Helen Harrison on 0439 889 969.

What’s your pattern and when to walk away

By |2020-11-09T11:22:32+10:00November 9th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling|

What’s your pattern and when to walk away. I have found a lot of people will do anything to make their relationship work and that is why they almost never regret it when it’s time to walk away. Yes, it is painful and there will be grief, but they do it anyway. Toxic is when you cannot let go but your partner cannot treat you right. What does toxic look like? Toxic is critical, dominating, passive, hopeless, powerless, disempowered, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, low self-worth, resentful, angry, oppressed, ashamed, misunderstood weak, unmotivated, exhaustion/fatigue and much more ………. Going back to somebody that … Read More

Are you a compatible couple?

By |2020-10-08T20:13:21+10:00October 26th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling|

Are you a compatible couple? Did I choose the wrong person? Are we a compatible couple? Are we just incompatible? Tough questions that many couples ask themselves after the honeymoon phase or the blissful part of the relationship has gone. Compatibility is key to a life-long partnership. “Compatibility is more important than love ? believe it or not ? and goes hand in hand with respect and communication at the top.” Asking yourselves if your wanting similar things in a relationship is vital. Four primary types of compatibility Here are 4 primary types of compatibility, and all of them are necessary for … Read More

Your Relationship with you

By |2020-10-08T20:14:13+10:00October 12th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

When I’m in session with clients I ask them what they are looking for and most say, peace, calmness, and their authentic self.  Some understand that you will not find what you are looking for out there.  The relationship, the house, car, the career, and the holiday. That it’s an inner job and it's about finding it within yourself.  I find what happens is our thoughts get in the way and the truth is we are not our thoughts. When you notice your thoughts, stop and recognise that something inside of you noticed your thoughts.  Ask who noticed them?  If you were … Read More

Libido in a long-term relationship with Sexologist Naomi Hutchings

By |2020-09-16T11:43:20+10:00September 24th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling|

Libido in a long-term relationship - Introducing Naomi Hutchings, a clinical sexologist currently working in Brisbane, Queensland.  Naomi has worked in this interesting field of human sexuality for over 14 years.  This is a short snippet of a terrific interview on my podcast Empowered Marriage. What is a sexologist? A sexologist is someone who has extensively studied, at a university level, the field of human sexuality in all aspects.  There are presently three fields of professional practice in sexology: research, sexual education, and clinical practice. Libido in a long-term relationship is often talked about so this interview I ask Naomi several questions … Read More

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast

By |2020-09-11T12:07:03+10:00September 14th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast - Introducing sisters Bonnie Black and Lilly Goleby. The Little Home Organised Podcast is dedicated to helping people declutter and get organised to reclaim time for the things they love.  An absolute pleasure to interview these lovely ladies, here is a little part of what we talked about. Clutter hurts We really find with the clients that we work with, that if there's a lot going on in their minds relationship problems problems at work health problems This all manifests in their physical space around them creating clutter. A cluttered desk is … Read More

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper

By |2020-07-21T16:33:21+10:00August 31st, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Guest Blog Peter Hooper, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper. Peter Hooper is the legal practitioner Director of Brisbane Family Law Specialists Pty Ltd trading as Hooper Family Lawyers. Peter has been a Queensland Law Society Family Law Accredited Specialist since 2007.  He’s been in the Redlands for about 10 years now. I felt it was important to have a lawyer on the show to educate and inform the listeners about separation. Peter explained that... Separation under the law requires three things. That there's an intent to separate by one party. A communication of that intent to the other party. And then acting upon it. If somebody decides the … Read More

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym

By |2020-07-22T13:23:03+10:00August 17th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym. Introducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes Two Dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, DV (domestic violence) and sexual abuse. A brilliant podcast was recorded, and this blog is a small sample of what was discussed. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected from myself, then I'm going to look outside of myself for comfort and then use something or someone if I have no other skills … that's addiction”. “So, if I'm … Read More

Move your baggage for a happier marriage

By |2020-06-24T21:38:40+10:00August 3rd, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Move your baggage for a happier marriage. Many people live with baggage, events that have happened in their lives, and never come to peace with them.  Not had closure, healing, and acceptance.  You have not processed the emotional component of events that have occurred in your life, particularly when you were younger. This is life with not much baggage and a person who is thriving in their marriage. Your breathing is normal, and muscles are soft. You are present in the now You can and do enjoy pleasure and joy You can cope and enjoy change You are grounded and centred You … Read More

Can a marriage last with no communication

By |2020-06-24T20:56:23+10:00July 20th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Can a marriage last with no communication? As you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication.  In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. Perhaps this is happening for you: Lost Intimacy Personal cost: Feeling isolation, sadness, low self-esteem and confidence, rejection, low self-worth, resentment, worry, anxiety to name a few. Anger Issues The personal cost to the individual on the receiving end: Tense, hurt, miserable, resentful, torn, weary, lonely, uneasy, restless, insecure, and more. The personal cost to the individual with the anger: unhappy, ashamed, confused, guilty, hostile, regretful, … Read More

How to stop avoiding confrontation

By |2020-06-24T20:09:24+10:00July 6th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Here are some reasons you may avoid confrontation: Your family of origin did not do confrontation Fear of disapproval and rejection You are a martyr; you sacrifice yourself for others. You're a pleaser you look for love out there by doing and pleasing others. You are a masked person; you adjust yourself depending on who you are talking to. Learn to say ‘no’, step by step. You will love yourself more when you set boundaries and allow yourself to say ‘no’. Start with small things and practice how to do it. Say ‘no’ to anything that hurts you physically, emotionally, mentally, or … Read More