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How to feel sexy and deserving of love

By |2021-07-05T08:55:15+10:00July 5th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

How to feel sexy and deserving of love You have lost interest in sex with your partner, you're just not feeling it.  This is so common particularly for women with children. I have many couples coming in weekly where the woman has lost interest in sex and her libido is nonexistent. The man is tired of being rejected. Digging a little deeper women, it’s the body confidence that has disappeared since the children have sucked you dry, pardon the pun. Let's get your sexy happening so you feel deserving of love to give yourself and receive from your partner. The first place … Read More

Best Communication tool for a power struggle

By |2021-06-15T10:48:03+10:00June 21st, 2021|General|

Best Communication tool for a power struggle Many of us live busy, stressful lives. Instead of a power struggle over who’s the most stressed, being able to destress together is a great tool to have. The talking stick is the best communication tool for a power struggle that ensures a code of conduct of respect. Use a small branch, pen, or something symbolic that represents the commitment and time you both have for each other. Each of you should have a turn with the talking stick, where whoever is holding it is the only one speaking, and the other partner must listen … Read More

Keeping your relationship turned ON

By |2021-06-02T14:48:21+10:00June 7th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling|

Keeping your relationship turned ON Are you friends, not intimate partners? Perhaps best friends but here is no physical or sexual connection? The longer you leave it, the harder it is to recover from. It’s not going to get easier by putting your troubles on the backburner. It’s about facing them head-on and looking at what you can do to bring back the desire and passion you once had in your relationship. It's about keeping your relationship turned on. Identify your needs: Identifying what makes you feel like having sex is important.  Men can be easily aroused where women’s desire is more … Read More

Are you hiding and what’s your mask?

By |2021-04-25T11:31:16+10:00May 10th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Are you hiding and what's your mask? Sometimes as a way of attempting to feel loved, we please others. Often, we have learned, and we have adopted various behavioural strategies designed to get approval and love for what you need. It can begin in childhood, continuing into adulthood. These strategies become like roles that you play or masks or personality types that you act out, whether conscious or unconscious. I'm going to list and talk about the different character types or masks that you may be acting out in your marriage. Having these different character types playing out in your marriage is … Read More

My Marriage isn’t working

By |2021-04-16T11:06:05+10:00April 26th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling|

My Marriage isn’t working. Here are the most common problems I see in my counselling sessions.  The longer you leave these issues unexplored the harder it is to find a resolution. Sexual issues Different views about money Lack of common goals Feeling misunderstood by partner Difficulty in openly expressing feelings and thoughts. Difficulty in expressing love and affection. Different interests Different parenting views Power struggles Begin with reflecting on why your marriage is not working: Be honest and speak truthfully as to why the marriage isn’t working. Use I statements, have turns in sharing, talking, and listening, regularly. Talk to each other, … Read More

The 4 Warning Signs

By |2021-03-16T16:18:02+10:00April 12th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling|

The 4 Warning Signs - Warning signs your marriage and relationship are in trouble can be slow and gradual and one day you realise you are not happy. When you get married you anticipate that you get married for life and no mention of divorce. If you ignore the warning signs and hope that communication in your relationship will magically improve you are dreaming. Is your relationship a priority is the question to ask yourself. Do you make time for each other? Do you listen to understand? There is a distinct slow change in relationships so it’s important to address this as soon … Read More

You want more Passion, Desire and Fun

By |2021-02-18T16:39:05+10:00March 29th, 2021|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

You want more Passion, Desire and Fun Do you want more passion, desire and fun? Are you feeling bored and stuck, perhaps you're in a rat and your marriage has gone stale? This is quite common, and you are perhaps beginning to look outside of yourself and comparing your relationship with other relationships? Are you asking yourself if this is as good as it gets? Are you unmotivated, exhausted, and lazy in your marriage? The reality is if you're bored, you need to do something about it. Focusing on what you want more than what you don’t want will be helpful and … Read More

My partner drinks too much

By |2021-02-18T16:04:32+10:00March 15th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

My partner drinks too much This is a hot topic. You’re struggling and for a number of years, you have watched your partner drink more and more. They change when they drink, perhaps happier, more talkative, and then the flip side of it is they become like a teenager and the adult self has left and you are left with someone who is: Critical and negative Aggressive Angry Shutdown and distant Agitated and so much more. You feel like you have a third person (being the drink) in your relationship, and you are very tired of the behaviour and what comes with … Read More

You’re no longer attracted to your partner

By |2021-02-01T10:14:50+10:00February 15th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling|

You're no longer attracted to your partner Realising you’re no longer attracted to your partner can be scary, worrying and all too consuming. You start getting stuck in your head, overthinking and catastrophising. Stay in it too long and you get into an emergency response and the fight and flight response takes over.  Before you know it, you’ve moved out, in a rental and have started a new life. For starters let’s slow down, right down. For some of you, the lack of attraction can be a phase and for others, it may mean the heart has left. The key is addressing … Read More

I just want you to love me

By |2021-01-04T09:34:37+10:00February 1st, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

I just want you to love me “You please me, and our relationship is good.” “Please me and we are good, and I will stick around.” This is called a conditional relationship and a large part of relationships and marriages are this. Conditional relationships are held together with individuals not taking responsibility for their own happiness and connection with themselves. Staying in alignment with yourself is the key. Staying true to your inner voice and not looking out there to get what you need.  That is nothing to do with you out there. Your relationship with your inner being is the most … Read More