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Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast

By |2020-09-11T12:07:03+10:00September 14th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast - Introducing sisters Bonnie Black and Lilly Goleby. The Little Home Organised Podcast is dedicated to helping people declutter and get organised to reclaim time for the things they love.  An absolute pleasure to interview these lovely ladies, here is a little part of what we talked about. Clutter hurts We really find with the clients that we work with, that if there's a lot going on in their minds relationship problems problems at work health problems This all manifests in their physical space around them creating clutter. A cluttered desk is … Read More

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper

By |2020-07-21T16:33:21+10:00August 31st, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Guest Blog Peter Hooper, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper. Peter Hooper is the legal practitioner Director of Brisbane Family Law Specialists Pty Ltd trading as Hooper Family Lawyers. Peter has been a Queensland Law Society Family Law Accredited Specialist since 2007.  He’s been in the Redlands for about 10 years now. I felt it was important to have a lawyer on the show to educate and inform the listeners about separation. Peter explained that... Separation under the law requires three things. That there's an intent to separate by one party. A communication of that intent to the other party. And then acting upon it. If somebody decides the … Read More

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym

By |2020-07-22T13:23:03+10:00August 17th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym. Introducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes Two Dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, DV (domestic violence) and sexual abuse. A brilliant podcast was recorded, and this blog is a small sample of what was discussed. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected from myself, then I'm going to look outside of myself for comfort and then use something or someone if I have no other skills … that's addiction”. “So, if I'm … Read More

Move your baggage for a happier marriage

By |2020-06-24T21:38:40+10:00August 3rd, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Move your baggage for a happier marriage. Many people live with baggage, events that have happened in their lives, and never come to peace with them.  Not had closure, healing, and acceptance.  You have not processed the emotional component of events that have occurred in your life, particularly when you were younger. This is life with not much baggage and a person who is thriving in their marriage. Your breathing is normal, and muscles are soft. You are present in the now You can and do enjoy pleasure and joy You can cope and enjoy change You are grounded and centred You … Read More

Can a marriage last with no communication

By |2020-06-24T20:56:23+10:00July 20th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Can a marriage last with no communication? As you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication.  In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. Perhaps this is happening for you: Lost Intimacy Personal cost: Feeling isolation, sadness, low self-esteem and confidence, rejection, low self-worth, resentment, worry, anxiety to name a few. Anger Issues The personal cost to the individual on the receiving end: Tense, hurt, miserable, resentful, torn, weary, lonely, uneasy, restless, insecure, and more. The personal cost to the individual with the anger: unhappy, ashamed, confused, guilty, hostile, regretful, … Read More

How to stop avoiding confrontation

By |2020-06-24T20:09:24+10:00July 6th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Here are some reasons you may avoid confrontation: Your family of origin did not do confrontation Fear of disapproval and rejection You are a martyr; you sacrifice yourself for others. You're a pleaser you look for love out there by doing and pleasing others. You are a masked person; you adjust yourself depending on who you are talking to. Learn to say ‘no’, step by step. You will love yourself more when you set boundaries and allow yourself to say ‘no’. Start with small things and practice how to do it. Say ‘no’ to anything that hurts you physically, emotionally, mentally, or … Read More

Are you living with a man child?

By |2020-06-24T18:48:09+10:00June 22nd, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Are you living with a man child? What is a man child? A man child is an individual who is immature for their age. Sometimes men who were overly nurtured as children and their parents protected them to a point where they did not get to experience disappointment and consequences due to making some mistakes. Teaching a child to think that he is always right is never to blame and does not have to handle tasks and responsibilities either at home or at school literally stunts his maturity and growth as an individual. Parents take protective measures to make sure their child … Read More

Are you a lonely wife or husband?

By |2020-05-22T14:41:32+10:00June 8th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Are you a lonely wife or husband? If you are lonely in your marriage it's painful and it hurts, and you wonder how you got here.   What does it look like? Your both at one place together yet you cannot connect with each other. You feel awkward and uncomfortable being in the same room together. You are not physically, mentally, or emotionally connected. When you do connect it may be hostile, defensive, argumentative and you start assuming things and taking things very personally.  You both no longer share your feelings with each other. How did you get here? Many reasons.... Lack of together … Read More

How to encourage your partner to express emotion

By |2020-05-24T17:15:25+10:00May 25th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Want your partner to express emotion? When partners can’t express their emotions, it can erode the marriage. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities, and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. Without emotion in your marriage, this erodes trust, security, intimacy, and closeness, and it's very painful if you’re on the receiving end of it. If a partner is not sharing emotions like sadness, loss, or grief, the relationship doesn’t become a haven for dealing with the deeper issues that occur in marriage. I regularly work with individuals and … Read More

Ways to make marriage fun again

By |2020-06-24T18:51:03+10:00May 11th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Ways to make marriage fun again. Having no fun in your marriage is slowly killing it and I see firsthand how it is affecting the couples I work with. It's putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire.  Understanding that you need to bring fun back will make for a much happier empowered marriage. 10 Ideas to start bringing the fun back into your marriage: Prioritise your marriage Are you in a rut, too much of a routine and habits and no room, want or time to put into your marriage? If you want to have … Read More