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Do you feel unlovable or unworthy?

Self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem. Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. You may be carrying a distorted picture of yourself within your mind.

Counselling and/or life coaching is an excellent strategy to improve self esteem. Learning techniques to prevent negative self-talk will have lasting and positive effects.

Please enjoy the following articles which discuss aspects of Self Esteem. If you would like to work with Helen, make an appointment by calling 0439 889 969.

Is Anxiety destroying your marriage?

By |2019-12-26T20:05:24+10:00December 30th, 2019|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, FAQ, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Anxiety in the suburbs is rampant and I see firsthand how it is affecting the marriages of Australia. It's putting strain and stress on marriages and not creating room for pleasure and desire.  Is anxiety destroying your marriage? Understanding it and healing it will make for a much happier empowered marriage. Do I have anxiety? 2 Questions to ask yourself Is my reaction over the top for what’s presenting? Are you finding it difficult to do things that you use to find easy? E.g. Groceries, riding in an elevator or being in a crowd. If you answered yes to either of these … Read More

Map your marriage

By |2019-12-15T15:48:55+10:00December 23rd, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Is it time to map your marriage? When did you last reflect on your marriage and the reality you are living? What is the reality of your marriage, not the stories in your head? Are you in an Empowered marriage filled with passion, desire and love? Or perhaps your feeling some of the list below. Feeling lost, anxious, confused, sad, regret, caged, unfulfilled? Not feeling heard or a priority? There’s no intimacy with your partner? Tired of not having enough money in your marriage? Your so stressed and run down and feel unsupported with your partner? You're feeling restless, you’re not living … Read More

Room mates and best friends

By |2019-12-15T15:49:54+10:00December 16th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

If you are feeling more like room mates and best friends, not lovers, then I'd encourage you to look at your relationship. The longer you leave this, the harder it is to come back from. It’s very painful if you are in this position in your marriage. Here are 8 ideas to get you started. Go down memory lane: I want you to go right back to when you first met. What was it like? What was it that attracted you to your partner? Was it confidence? Was it the passion for whatever their purpose was? Perhaps an artist, riding or sailing … Read More

From Adrenaline addiction to authentic living – Part 2

By |2019-12-09T13:59:18+10:00December 9th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Adrenaline addiction can creep up on you and you may not even realize you suffer from this. A sure sign the push, push way of living. The hyper-arousal, the hyper-vigilant way of living. Living is survival for you. Then it's time to go from Adrenaline addiction to authentic living. Deciding you want to change this and live in a calmer way; a thriving way is a personal decision and often brought on because it’s affecting the quality of your marriage. Signs that you are overcoming adrenaline addiction Automatically drift off to sleep – Perhaps the easiest way to know that you’ve overcome … Read More

From Adrenaline addiction to authentic living – Part 1

By |2019-12-03T11:33:07+10:00December 3rd, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

The Cost to you and your marriage From adrenaline addiction to authentic living. You get busier and busier with no relief in sight. You push and push yourself and create situations to get a hit of adrenaline. Extended periods of stress will in time catch up to you and roll into chronic stress which will in time affect your health. You cannot live this way forever and something must give…. Are you constantly late so then you must rush? Constantly checking emails, social media and booking a tight schedule? Do you leave things to the last minute, e.g. A project or preparation … Read More

When do you say I do

By |2019-11-28T10:09:06+10:00November 25th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, FAQ, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

When do you say I do? Marriage can be one of the biggest decisions of your life and should not be rushed.  Sometimes I sit with couples and wonder why they got married in the first place.  They committed to someone who was displaying behaviour that worried them, upset them however they got married anyway. Commitment is a mindset.  Your behaviour should reflect this mindset. I believe it’s crucial for couples to have premarital counselling so it can help couples make an informed decision about their commitment to one another and commitment comes before anything else. How do you know if you’re … Read More

How to overcome being needy

By |2019-11-11T09:44:31+10:00November 11th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, FAQ, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Newsletter, Self Esteem, Self help|

How to overcome being needy is a common theme in my counselling sessions.  Why are we needy and what does it look like? You may be always running to your partner for help? Perhaps you are constantly texting, messaging even if they are at work? Needing affection and attention from your partner? Need to be with your partner, what are they doing? If a text or call doesn’t come in, you worry and you think something is wrong. When you are needy it’s very unattractive and your partner will begin to pull away and in turn, can ruin your relationship/marriage.  When your … Read More

Prepare and cope with an empty nest

By |2019-10-07T20:31:21+10:00November 4th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

The transition to an empty nest and it can cause damage to a marriage and a relationship. It's important to prepare for when your children leave home. Ideally, to prepare and cope with an empty nest, it's best to start preparing years before they leave. Purpose and your role: Raising your children is not your purpose it is your role. I felt that my purpose in life was to be a mother and raise my children. Over the years I have changed that belief. I now understand that raising my children is my role and it's for me to find what my … Read More

The top four most argued issues ever

By |2019-12-26T20:24:29+10:00October 28th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

What do you think the top four most argued issues ever are? Yes, you guessed it: Sex Money Chores Children Partners will always have disagreements, however, it’s how you overcome conflict and this is dependent on your communication skills. Sex: Sex is such a common problem in marriage, not enough of it or not having it at all and many more reasons why sex can create conflict. Too tired, not in the mood and just mismatched libidos. Its critical couples address this asap to minimise issues in the future. Picking a time that is right where you are both relaxed, not distracted … Read More

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:40:54+10:00October 21st, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage. When you have a clear picture of your sense of purpose you are going to be more content and a happier partner. This can take your marriage to a new level because you are more enjoyable to be around and everyday issues you are going to deal with a lot better. You are better able to handle stress and with thus your self-worth increases. Knowing your unique role and listening to the beat of your own drum is the key. When you’re not living on purpose you can feel out of balance.  Sometimes a feeling … Read More