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Do you feel unlovable or unworthy?

Self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem. Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. You may be carrying a distorted picture of yourself within your mind.

Counselling and/or life coaching is an excellent strategy to improve self esteem. Learning techniques to prevent negative self-talk will have lasting and positive effects.

Please enjoy the following articles which discuss aspects of Self Esteem. If you would like to work with Helen, make an appointment by calling 0439 889 969.

I just want you to love me

By |2021-01-04T09:34:37+10:00February 1st, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

I just want you to love me “You please me, and our relationship is good.” “Please me and we are good, and I will stick around.” This is called a conditional relationship and a large part of relationships and marriages are this. Conditional relationships are held together with individuals not taking responsibility for their own happiness and connection with themselves. Staying in alignment with yourself is the key. Staying true to your inner voice and not looking out there to get what you need.  That is nothing to do with you out there. Your relationship with your inner being is the most … Read More

Has your partner outgrown you

By |2021-01-04T09:35:38+10:00January 18th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Has your partner outgrown you? So your partner seems different? In every area of his or her life.  Your partner has discovered how intuitive they really are.  A whole new dimension of life has opened, enhancing job, relationships, self-esteem, creativity, and health.  Their ability to create visions for the future that is strong and robust, and you feel like you’re being left behind. If you criticise and judge and you want to be in a long-term happy marriage, then this is for you.  Intuition increases our empathy and compassion for ourselves and our partner. Growing is crucial and we can all reach … Read More

3 Steps to Rebuild Trust

By |2020-11-10T14:46:23+10:00January 4th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

3 Steps to rebuild trust. Healing after betrayal or infidelity is painful and hard work.  This requires vulnerability and this cannot occur without the offending partner’s continual expression of remorse. Reflecting on the experience is especially important to re-establish confidence in the relationship. Both partners must also take some time to gauge their emotional space Unearth a lesson from the experience. Spend time reflecting on what it is that caused you or your partner pain Reflect on the actions taken that broke the trust, to begin with. What did it make you feel? How are you feeling now as a result of … Read More

You want more passion in your marriage

By |2020-11-10T07:31:45+10:00November 23rd, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

You want more passion in your marriage. Being grounded and centred enables you to live life in a way that flows with everything. Being uncentered causes you to struggle and fight against life, it’s a struggle. Being ungrounded makes you experience your emotions in a stronger and more negative way when you could be experiencing a much calmer way. Grounding is crucial for more passion in your marriage. How do you ground yourself to become more centred and calmer? First, recognise that you need to do this. Try an exercise that connects you energetically to the earth. It allows you to be more authentically in your body, in the present … Read More

Your Relationship with you

By |2020-10-08T20:14:13+10:00October 12th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

When I’m in session with clients I ask them what they are looking for and most say, peace, calmness, and their authentic self.  Some understand that you will not find what you are looking for out there.  The relationship, the house, car, the career, and the holiday. That it’s an inner job and it's about finding it within yourself.  I find what happens is our thoughts get in the way and the truth is we are not our thoughts. When you notice your thoughts, stop and recognise that something inside of you noticed your thoughts.  Ask who noticed them?  If you were … Read More

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast

By |2020-09-11T12:07:03+10:00September 14th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast - Introducing sisters Bonnie Black and Lilly Goleby. The Little Home Organised Podcast is dedicated to helping people declutter and get organised to reclaim time for the things they love.  An absolute pleasure to interview these lovely ladies, here is a little part of what we talked about. Clutter hurts We really find with the clients that we work with, that if there's a lot going on in their minds relationship problems problems at work health problems This all manifests in their physical space around them creating clutter. A cluttered desk is … Read More

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym

By |2020-07-22T13:23:03+10:00August 17th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym. Introducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes Two Dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, DV (domestic violence) and sexual abuse. A brilliant podcast was recorded, and this blog is a small sample of what was discussed. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected from myself, then I'm going to look outside of myself for comfort and then use something or someone if I have no other skills … that's addiction”. “So, if I'm … Read More

Can a marriage last with no communication

By |2020-06-24T20:56:23+10:00July 20th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Can a marriage last with no communication? As you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication.  In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. Perhaps this is happening for you: Lost Intimacy Personal cost: Feeling isolation, sadness, low self-esteem and confidence, rejection, low self-worth, resentment, worry, anxiety to name a few. Anger Issues The personal cost to the individual on the receiving end: Tense, hurt, miserable, resentful, torn, weary, lonely, uneasy, restless, insecure, and more. The personal cost to the individual with the anger: unhappy, ashamed, confused, guilty, hostile, regretful, … Read More

Are you a lonely wife or husband?

By |2020-05-22T14:41:32+10:00June 8th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Are you a lonely wife or husband? If you are lonely in your marriage it's painful and it hurts, and you wonder how you got here.   What does it look like? Your both at one place together yet you cannot connect with each other. You feel awkward and uncomfortable being in the same room together. You are not physically, mentally, or emotionally connected. When you do connect it may be hostile, defensive, argumentative and you start assuming things and taking things very personally.  You both no longer share your feelings with each other. How did you get here? Many reasons.... Lack of together … Read More

How to encourage your partner to express emotion

By |2020-05-24T17:15:25+10:00May 25th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Want your partner to express emotion? When partners can’t express their emotions, it can erode the marriage. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities, and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. Without emotion in your marriage, this erodes trust, security, intimacy, and closeness, and it's very painful if you’re on the receiving end of it. If a partner is not sharing emotions like sadness, loss, or grief, the relationship doesn’t become a haven for dealing with the deeper issues that occur in marriage. I regularly work with individuals and … Read More