Self Esteem

/Self Esteem

Do you feel unlovable or unworthy?

Self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem. Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. You may be carrying a distorted picture of yourself within your mind.

Counselling and/or life coaching is an excellent strategy to improve self esteem. Learning techniques to prevent negative self-talk will have lasting and positive effects.

Please enjoy the following articles which discuss aspects of Self Esteem. If you would like to work with Helen, make an appointment by calling 0439 889 969.

How to not lose your identity in your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:45:09+10:00October 14th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

I work with a lot of individuals who have lost their identity. It’s very painful and you will be suffering greatly if you are feeling this. I did, and I know firsthand what it feels like and what is needed to come back from this. What is losing your identity, what does that mean? You cannot make decisions for yourself Loss of confidence and self-esteem A shell of your old life and who you were Given up your social life and your own interests You compromise your wants and needs for your partner Your feeling unhappy, negative, sad, angry or frustrated. You … Read More

Knowing when to end your marriage

By |2019-09-19T20:08:17+10:00September 30th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

If you're thinking about ending your marriage, you're likely to be facing one of the most difficult decisions of your adult life. Many people struggle for a very long time before making a firm choice about whether to stay or go. Today I am going to cover : The eight red flags that could be occurring in your marriage Primary reasons people stay Questions to ask yourself What to do before making any major decisions The eight red flags that could be occurring in your marriage You are not communicating anymore outside what is necessary and even that content is negative. Most … Read More

Move the boredom in your marriage

By |2019-09-19T20:06:49+10:00September 23rd, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Marriage is one of the few things that can get more challenging over time. If you're with someone long term, you can begin to take your marriage and your partner for granted and it can become boring. Are you feeling like you're trapped, you're stuck, you're in a rat and your marriage has gone stale? Are you beginning to fantasize about being with other people or another partner? Are you beginning to look outside of yourself and compare your relationship with other relationships? Are you constantly wondering what you're missing out on? Are you asking yourself if this is as good as … Read More

Victim or Victorious Marriage

By |2019-09-16T11:48:12+10:00September 16th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Most of us have relied on people and programs to motivate us and give us courage at some time in our lives. But the bottom line is that in the end, we each must motivate ourselves; there is no easy way around it. Victorious is about developing your own strength so that you can be successful, triumphant and the best version of yourself. It means becoming the number one person in your life, building up your self-esteem and recognising how awesome and brilliant you are which ripples thru into your marriage. Looking outside of yourself for your partner to do this … Read More

Living with Emotions in your Marriage

By |2019-08-19T18:25:38+10:00September 9th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Do you keep all your feelings inside until you reach a point where you explode? Does the slightest thing tip you into behaving like a “crazy person”? Is your reaction to a situation over the top for what’s presenting? Some people repress their emotions to cope. It is simpler to keep the emotions buried, rather than let them surface and be forced to experience them. It seems easier to live in your head and hide from the feelings. However, emotions build-up, which is unhealthy in the long-term. These emotions stay in your body on a cellular level until you bring that emotion … Read More

Letting go of resentment in your marriage

By |2019-05-28T09:42:42+10:00June 2nd, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

When you're feeling hurt about something in your marriage it can build up over time. It's lots of little resentments that have built up and built up and you feel that you've been wronged in some way. You’re not being heard, validated, perhaps you feel invisible and not important. They begin to multiply if they haven't been dealt with at the time resentment begins to build. Feelings under resentment can include anger, sadness, doubt, grief and many more emotions. Getting to a place where you can learn to stop feeling the resentment and instead feel gratitude, peacefulness and compassion is the pathway … Read More

Do you have an elephant in the living room and self-esteem in your marriage?

By |2019-05-14T11:12:04+10:00May 25th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Self-esteem is crucial to having an empowered marriage.  If you're traveling through life and we all are, each one of us we experience, thoughts and feelings and moments and memories. They all go towards building our personality, our perceptions and our behaviours. These experiences, help make us who we are, they influence the way we see ourselves in the world. If we have positive experiences, they help us feel accepted and happy within ourselves.  If we have negative experiences, they eat away at our confidence and self-worth, particularly the period between zero and seven. That time we are like little sponges and … Read More

Secrets to a long-lasting empowered marriage

By |2019-05-14T10:56:09+10:00May 19th, 2019|Couples, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Here they are, the 5 secrets to a long-lasting empowered marriage: Have your own identity Be a team A balance between positive and negative Being equal Letting go of the expectations   Have your own identity:  be your own person. A lot of couples when they're working with me, we go back and look at the history: when they met and how they met. And for some people it's not always the case, but for some couples, those people who have just come straight out of home and got into a relationship struggle with this. Separating from the childhood home, the childhood … Read More

Needy, Naggy and Controlling are very unattractive in marriage

By |2019-05-14T10:25:28+10:00May 12th, 2019|Couples, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

This is very common, and I work a lot with this in my Counselling practice.  If this speaks to you then it’s about being honest with yourself if you have any of these behaviours. Needy:  Let’s look at needy and first place to start is to ask yourself, why am I needy? Where has it come from? It’s usually from the wounded part of you, the wounded child in you. You have many parts that make up you and your life. Your partner is part of that, but not all of it. So, respecting your partner's need for space is crucial. You … Read More

Unmask the Resentment in your Relationship

By |2019-02-07T10:38:02+10:00February 7th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem|

Having been in business for 11 years I would have to say resentment is so common and the most damaging behaviour to have in a relationship.  Resentment is an emotion that begins small and then builds and festers within you.  It’s often an accumulation of months and sometimes years of unexpressed negative emotions. Sometimes it manifests itself as boredom. Other times it manifests itself as a mild persistent annoyance. And other times it appears as a snarky comment, withdrawal of affection, or a judgmental comment. Resentment is an emotion that builds and festers in the background. It usually isn’t a feeling that just … Read More