Self Esteem

/Self Esteem

Do you feel unlovable or unworthy?

Self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem. Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. You may be carrying a distorted picture of yourself within your mind.

Counselling and/or life coaching is an excellent strategy to improve self esteem. Learning techniques to prevent negative self-talk will have lasting and positive effects.

Please enjoy the following articles which discuss aspects of Self Esteem. If you would like to work with Helen, make an appointment by calling 0439 889 969.

How to move on after a breakup

By |2017-08-23T14:12:07+10:00August 23rd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Self Esteem|

There is know one easy way to move on after a breakup.  For most people its extremely painful, heartbreaking and rocks you to your core.  Its a journey that starts with a conscious decision that you have let go. There are tools that can help you progress, but the process is unique for each one of you. You may need to try some different approaches to find what is right for you. It requires patience and might take months or even years. The process of acceptance of your new reality  takes hard work and commitment. You may feel uncomfortable at times during … Read More

Stop having a victim mentality

By |2017-08-23T13:44:06+10:00August 23rd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

So, what is a victim? A victim is someone who feels hard done by and that they have little or no control over there life. A victim is a person who believes that something or someone or the past is externally controlling their life. In this headspace, you feel sorry for yourself and you sit and have a pity party, visit pity land, and bring in evidence to support why you are so hard done by. Being a victim sometimes just feels so comfortable, so usual so familiar.   Perhaps you have been like this for as long as you can remember … Read More

Habits and motivation are a peanut butter sandwich

By |2017-06-02T14:55:23+10:00June 2nd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

A peanut butter sandwich is best with two pieces of bread and the filling in the middle just like your life. See the relevance, NO? I don’t either but hopefully I have your attention. Life sometimes is tough and other times fabulous, that’s life. We do not have control as to what goes on out there however we do with what goes on within us and how we think. You choose decisiveness, anger, procrastination, blame, strength, honour, empowerment, and you get to choose how it will be in a situation for you. How does this connect with habits and motivation? These skills … Read More

Holiday Wrecker

By |2017-04-05T12:53:44+10:00August 9th, 2016|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Life Coaching, Newsletter, Self Esteem|

Most of you would have heard of the freeze, fight or flight response. It’s an acute stress response which is out of your control because you have been triggered and your feeling unsafe.    I can use me as a specific example for this.  In my family I WAS known as the holiday wrecker.  For my entire adult life (apart from the last 5 years) every time I went on a holiday with my husband and 3 sons who are nearly all adults I would suffer with major anxiety.  For so many years I just didn’t get what was going on with … Read More

You cannot hide from low self-worth

By |2016-10-13T20:53:39+10:00April 11th, 2016|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Newsletter, Self Esteem|

Working as a counsellor self-worth is the crucial foundation that is needed for any improvement in self-esteem.  Self-worth is what you think of yourself; the picture you have of yourself. It is the foundation of your ability to believe in yourself and the doorway through which self-esteem is received. Without self-worth you will have doubts and fears about your actual existence on this planet. Any attempts to improve your self-esteem will be cancelled out and dreams, visions and accomplishments will be overthrown or annulled due to no self-worth. Activity: How You Value Yourself  Answer the following questions: Do you value yourself externally … Read More

Habits are Vital for Motivation

By |2014-12-21T19:39:27+10:00December 21st, 2014|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

When you are motivated you increase the likelihood of achieving your dreams, hopes and visions for the future and this increases your self-esteem. Self-motivation is an internal drive to achieve, produce, develop and keep moving forward. Motivation is incentive, drive, inspiration, enthusiasm, the fire in your belly that comes from within. When you have self-motivation it doesn’t matter what you are doing, you will learn and grow regardless. When you are self-motivated you don’t rely on someone or something for support and encouragement. Self-motivation does not come naturally to everyone. If it is something challenging for you, it doesn’t mean you cannot … Read More

Developing Self Esteem thru Spirituality

By |2014-12-21T19:19:36+10:00November 27th, 2014|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Spirituality is the connection with yourself and the universe in the search for the meaning of life. In this context god is the universe, the creator, an energy responsible for the planet and all things in it and something much bigger than us. Spirituality is different for each one of us, but it helps give life a framework. It can manifest in many forms including prayer, meditation, a belief in a higher power and community involvement. It can be evident in nature, music and art. Spirituality is about beauty, being present, compassion, enthusiasm, forgiveness, gratitude, listening, love, nurturing, silence, intuition, openness and … Read More

You Cannot Control Your Emotions

By |2016-10-13T20:53:44+10:00November 12th, 2014|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

No one can control their emotions. The key to dealing with emotions is living with them, loving them, managing them, feeling them and releasing them. As is the case with many people it may  look like they are coping and then all of a sudden explode over a tiny issue. This is a sure sign of someone trying to control their emotions. The feelings have to come out eventually and the chances are that, if you repress them, they will come out at the most inappropriate times and in the most dysfunctional ways. The apparent overreaction may be caused by a buried emotion that … Read More

Do you use the following when you think about yourself?

By |2016-10-13T20:53:44+10:00October 31st, 2014|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Self put-downs: Do you over-react to a situation and put yourself down? I am such a dummy. Mental filtering: Do you only focus on the negatives? Do you distort your opinion of a situation or a person because the negatives are all that you see? I made such a fool of myself because I made a mistake at the beginning of my speech. All or nothing: Do you label events that occur in your life as either good or bad, with no in-between? If I do not get an A in my exam then I am quitting. Jumping to a negative conclusion: … Read More

10 Tools For Achieving Goals

By |2016-10-13T20:53:44+10:00September 9th, 2014|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Ensure that the goal is something that you really want, not just something that sounds good Your goals must be consistent with your values. Visualising your goal is a powerful exercise. Your goal will be more readily attained if you fill your subconscious mind with as much detail as you can about the goal. Visualise the goal, including what it looks, feels and smells like. Writing down your goals creates a map to show where you are heading. When writing down your goals, state what you want to achieve. Writing down your goals in the positive, rather than in the negative, helps … Read More