Two Million Dollars and a New Partner

By |2021-10-25T12:11:53+10:00October 25th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Two million dollars and a new partner - “I will be happy when I have the cash and the new man.  Let’s also add in the new career, new wardrobe and the flash car.” Is this you? You are highly charged, reactive and swing like a pendulum according to the outside triggers. This is a tough way to live life and a lot of us live like this.  Safety, security and worth is something outside of yourself.  So great is our thirst to be seen, validated, and approved of it that sets us up for living unauthentically, in a false way. It … Read More

Questions and Answers

By |2021-09-05T19:34:18+10:00September 27th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Questions and Answers Here’s four questions that I received recently; names removed for confidentiality. 1. How am I to make the difficult choice to divorce when I know my marriage is over but feel so much shame and stigma? Reframing your thoughts and beliefs surrounding divorce can be very helpful. I struggled with this and what supported me was to see the divorce wasn’t a break from anything on the outside. It was a divorce from my own past My false self My pleaser self My unauthenticity self My own ego It was a divorce from the fear and victim mentality When … Read More

How to love after conflict

By |2021-07-28T12:11:22+10:00August 30th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

How to love after conflict  A couple’s ability to repair their conflict is so important, not in their ability to avoid it. Here are some reasons you may avoid confrontation. Your family of origin did not do confrontation. Your fear for disapproval and rejection. Sometimes you are a martyr and you sacrifice yourself for others. You are a pleaser, you look for love out there by doing and pleasing others. At times you are a masked person; you adjust yourself depending on who you are talking to. Successful conflict resolution sets aside the regrettable incident when it's worked through and leaves it in … Read More

The Shocking Truth about marriage

By |2021-07-28T11:43:54+10:00August 16th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

The Shocking Truth about marriage The universal sign of being wanted, settled, and loved is marriage. The longer the better, 15 years, 25 years, and 30 years.  The cultural programming, the measure of worth lies in the other, like marriage and not from deep within yourself. To sacrifice your identity, your want, your purpose and your needs for the sake of the marriage is common, particularly for women. “I’ve been married 27 years!” It’s like a badge of honour and the longer the time the better.  However, no one knows what’s going on inside the marriage. Many marriages are not working, communication … Read More

How to find your Purpose without ending your marriage

By |2021-07-05T10:25:27+10:00August 2nd, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

How to find your Purpose without ending your marriage Have you lost your mojo and you unmotivated? Have you lost your identity and what inspires you? This is affecting the quality of your marriage and the connection. A common situation I see, and the ending of a marriage is sometimes not the answer. Each person is responsible for their own happiness and living on purpose is an important part of this. You can find your purpose without ending your marriage. Sometimes we need to take it back to foundational steps and what you need to get in touch with your purpose and why you … Read More

Get rid of that resentment once and for all

By |2021-07-05T10:24:58+10:00July 19th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Get rid of that resentment once and for all Do you have lots of little resentments that have built up and built up and you feel that you've been wronged in some way. You’re not being heard, validated, perhaps you feel invisible and not important. They begin to multiply and if they haven't been dealt with at the time resentment begins to build. Feelings under resentment can include anger, sadness, doubt, grief and many more emotions. Getting to a place where you can learn to let go of the feelings and the resentment and instead feel gratitude, peacefulness and compassion is the pathway to … Read More

How to feel sexy and deserving of love

By |2021-07-05T08:55:15+10:00July 5th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

How to feel sexy and deserving of love You have lost interest in sex with your partner, you're just not feeling it.  This is so common particularly for women with children. I have many couples coming in weekly where the woman has lost interest in sex and her libido is nonexistent. The man is tired of being rejected. Digging a little deeper women, it’s the body confidence that has disappeared since the children have sucked you dry, pardon the pun. Let's get your sexy happening so you feel deserving of love to give yourself and receive from your partner. The first place … Read More

Take time out to stop a Toxic Marriage

By |2021-04-25T12:03:54+10:00May 24th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Take time out to stop a Toxic Marriage It is important that you can recognise when time out is needed in your relationship. Your breathing has gotten faster, your voice is louder, and your tone has changed. You may have started to feel frustrated and angry. Rather than speaking assertively, you tend to change to aggression and criticism. Rather than listening to understand, you can ignore, belittle and argue back. The fight and flight response has been triggered. This is when a time-out is especially needed, as hurtful things can easily be said and done in these moments. For many people, they … Read More

Are you hiding and what’s your mask?

By |2021-04-25T11:31:16+10:00May 10th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Are you hiding and what's your mask? Sometimes as a way of attempting to feel loved, we please others. Often, we have learned, and we have adopted various behavioural strategies designed to get approval and love for what you need. It can begin in childhood, continuing into adulthood. These strategies become like roles that you play or masks or personality types that you act out, whether conscious or unconscious. I'm going to list and talk about the different character types or masks that you may be acting out in your marriage. Having these different character types playing out in your marriage is … Read More

You want more Passion, Desire and Fun

By |2021-02-18T16:39:05+10:00March 29th, 2021|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

You want more Passion, Desire and Fun Do you want more passion, desire and fun? Are you feeling bored and stuck, perhaps you're in a rat and your marriage has gone stale? This is quite common, and you are perhaps beginning to look outside of yourself and comparing your relationship with other relationships? Are you asking yourself if this is as good as it gets? Are you unmotivated, exhausted, and lazy in your marriage? The reality is if you're bored, you need to do something about it. Focusing on what you want more than what you don’t want will be helpful and … Read More

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