Self help

Can a marriage last with no communication? As you can imagine it is difficult for a marriage to go long term without communication and effective assertive communication.  In time you will feel lonely, distant, and disconnected. Perhaps this is happening for you: Lost Intimacy Personal cost: Feeling isolation, sadness, low self-esteem and confidence, rejection, low self-worth, resentment, worry, anxiety to name a few. Anger Issues The personal cost to the individual on the receiving end: Tense, hurt, miserable, resentful, torn, weary, lonely, uneasy, restless, insecure, and more. The personal cost to the individual with the anger: unhappy, ashamed, confused, guilty, hostile, regretful, … Read More

Are you a lonely wife or husband? If you are lonely in your marriage it's painful and it hurts, and you wonder how you got here.   What does it look like? Your both at one place together yet you cannot connect with each other. You feel awkward and uncomfortable being in the same room together. You are not physically, mentally, or emotionally connected. When you do connect it may be hostile, defensive, argumentative and you start assuming things and taking things very personally.  You both no longer share your feelings with each other. How did you get here? Many reasons.... Lack of together … Read More

Want your partner to express emotion? When partners can’t express their emotions, it can erode the marriage. Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities, and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. Without emotion in your marriage, this erodes trust, security, intimacy, and closeness, and it's very painful if you’re on the receiving end of it. If a partner is not sharing emotions like sadness, loss, or grief, the relationship doesn’t become a haven for dealing with the deeper issues that occur in marriage. I regularly work with individuals and … Read More