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How to overcome being needy

By |2019-11-11T09:44:31+10:00November 11th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, FAQ, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Newsletter, Self Esteem, Self help|

How to overcome being needy is a common theme in my counselling sessions.  Why are we needy and what does it look like? You may be always running to your partner for help? Perhaps you are constantly texting, messaging even if they are at work? Needing affection and attention from your partner? Need to be with your partner, what are they doing? If a text or call doesn’t come in, you worry and you think something is wrong. When you are needy it’s very unattractive and your partner will begin to pull away and in turn, can ruin your relationship/marriage.  When your … Read More

Prepare and cope with an empty nest

By |2019-10-07T20:31:21+10:00November 4th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

The transition to an empty nest and it can cause damage to a marriage and a relationship. It's important to prepare for when your children leave home. Ideally, to prepare and cope with an empty nest, it's best to start preparing years before they leave. Purpose and your role: Raising your children is not your purpose it is your role. I felt that my purpose in life was to be a mother and raise my children. Over the years I have changed that belief. I now understand that raising my children is my role and it's for me to find what my … Read More

The top four most argued issues ever

By |2019-10-07T20:36:17+10:00October 28th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

What do you think the top four most argued issues ever are? Yes, you guessed it: Sex Money Chores Children Partners will always have disagreements, however, it’s how you overcome conflict and this is dependent on your communication skills. Sex is such a common problem in marriage, not enough of it or not having it at all and many more reasons why sex can create conflict. Too tired, not in the mood and just mismatched libidos. Its critical couples address this asap to minimise issues in the future. Picking a time that is right where you are both relaxed, not distracted to … Read More

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:40:54+10:00October 21st, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage. When you have a clear picture of your sense of purpose you are going to be more content and a happier partner. This can take your marriage to a new level because you are more enjoyable to be around and everyday issues you are going to deal with a lot better. You are better able to handle stress and with thus your self-worth increases. Knowing your unique role and listening to the beat of your own drum is the key. When you’re not living on purpose you can feel out of balance.  Sometimes a feeling … Read More

How to not lose your identity in your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:45:09+10:00October 14th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

I work with a lot of individuals who have lost their identity. It’s very painful and you will be suffering greatly if you are feeling this. I did, and I know firsthand what it feels like and what is needed to come back from this. What is losing your identity, what does that mean? You cannot make decisions for yourself Loss of confidence and self-esteem A shell of your old life and who you were Given up your social life and your own interests You compromise your wants and needs for your partner Your feeling unhappy, negative, sad, angry or frustrated. You … Read More