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I get angry easily

By |2021-02-01T11:05:06+10:00March 1st, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

I get angry easily So you’re in a marriage/relationship and your feeling hurt and you get angry easily.  For example, 0 to 10 very quickly. You may feel some of this: Not heard Not validated Feel invisible Not important These feelings can begin to multiply if they haven't been dealt with at the time resentment begins to build.  Feelings under resentment can include anger, sadness, doubt, grief and many more emotions. Getting to a place where you can learn to stop feeling the resentment and instead feel gratitude, peacefulness and compassion is the pathway to an empowered marriage. Acceptance I believe acceptance … Read More

I just want you to love me

By |2021-01-04T09:34:37+10:00February 1st, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

I just want you to love me “You please me, and our relationship is good.” “Please me and we are good, and I will stick around.” This is called a conditional relationship and a large part of relationships and marriages are this. Conditional relationships are held together with individuals not taking responsibility for their own happiness and connection with themselves. Staying in alignment with yourself is the key. Staying true to your inner voice and not looking out there to get what you need.  That is nothing to do with you out there. Your relationship with your inner being is the most … Read More

Has your partner outgrown you

By |2021-01-04T09:35:38+10:00January 18th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Has your partner outgrown you? So your partner seems different? In every area of his or her life.  Your partner has discovered how intuitive they really are.  A whole new dimension of life has opened, enhancing job, relationships, self-esteem, creativity, and health.  Their ability to create visions for the future that is strong and robust, and you feel like you’re being left behind. If you criticise and judge and you want to be in a long-term happy marriage, then this is for you.  Intuition increases our empathy and compassion for ourselves and our partner. Growing is crucial and we can all reach … Read More

3 Steps to Rebuild Trust

By |2020-11-10T14:46:23+10:00January 4th, 2021|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

3 Steps to rebuild trust. Healing after betrayal or infidelity is painful and hard work.  This requires vulnerability and this cannot occur without the offending partner’s continual expression of remorse. Reflecting on the experience is especially important to re-establish confidence in the relationship. Both partners must also take some time to gauge their emotional space Unearth a lesson from the experience. Spend time reflecting on what it is that caused you or your partner pain Reflect on the actions taken that broke the trust, to begin with. What did it make you feel? How are you feeling now as a result of … Read More

9 Most Common Marriage Problems

By |2020-11-10T08:05:34+10:00December 7th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

The 9 Most Common Marriage Problems 1. Deficient communication Communication is a verbal and nonverbal exchange of information that requires a response. Because it takes more than one person to communicate, it’s focused on a connection between people where it’s safe to openly share ideas and information free of judgment. When partners are unable to communicate clearly, it’s easy for them to fall into a habitual way of ineffectively speaking to one another. What’s worse is that if poor communication skills are not dealt with, it’s possible for more serious problems to arise. Fix it:  Couples should learn how to communicate with … Read More

You want more passion in your marriage

By |2020-11-10T07:31:45+10:00November 23rd, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

You want more passion in your marriage. Being grounded and centred enables you to live life in a way that flows with everything. Being uncentered causes you to struggle and fight against life, it’s a struggle. Being ungrounded makes you experience your emotions in a stronger and more negative way when you could be experiencing a much calmer way. Grounding is crucial for more passion in your marriage. How do you ground yourself to become more centred and calmer? First, recognise that you need to do this. Try an exercise that connects you energetically to the earth. It allows you to be more authentically in your body, in the present … Read More

Your Relationship with you

By |2020-10-08T20:14:13+10:00October 12th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

When I’m in session with clients I ask them what they are looking for and most say, peace, calmness, and their authentic self.  Some understand that you will not find what you are looking for out there.  The relationship, the house, car, the career, and the holiday. That it’s an inner job and it's about finding it within yourself.  I find what happens is our thoughts get in the way and the truth is we are not our thoughts. When you notice your thoughts, stop and recognise that something inside of you noticed your thoughts.  Ask who noticed them?  If you were … Read More

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast

By |2020-09-11T12:07:03+10:00September 14th, 2020|Anxiety, Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Clutter Hurts Marriage with Guests from Little Home Organised Podcast - Introducing sisters Bonnie Black and Lilly Goleby. The Little Home Organised Podcast is dedicated to helping people declutter and get organised to reclaim time for the things they love.  An absolute pleasure to interview these lovely ladies, here is a little part of what we talked about. Clutter hurts We really find with the clients that we work with, that if there's a lot going on in their minds relationship problems problems at work health problems This all manifests in their physical space around them creating clutter. A cluttered desk is … Read More

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper

By |2020-07-21T16:33:21+10:00August 31st, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Guest Blog Peter Hooper, Marriage Counselling, Self help|

Separation with lawyer Peter Hooper. Peter Hooper is the legal practitioner Director of Brisbane Family Law Specialists Pty Ltd trading as Hooper Family Lawyers. Peter has been a Queensland Law Society Family Law Accredited Specialist since 2007.  He’s been in the Redlands for about 10 years now. I felt it was important to have a lawyer on the show to educate and inform the listeners about separation. Peter explained that... Separation under the law requires three things. That there's an intent to separate by one party. A communication of that intent to the other party. And then acting upon it. If somebody decides the … Read More

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym

By |2020-07-22T13:23:03+10:00August 17th, 2020|Counselling in Brisbane, Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help|

Family Addiction with experts Georgia and Kym. Introducing the Addictive World with Georgia Phillips and Kym Haynes Two Dynamic therapists with a wealth of knowledge between them and have been working with families with trauma, addiction, DV (domestic violence) and sexual abuse. A brilliant podcast was recorded, and this blog is a small sample of what was discussed. What is addiction and how it affects marriage? Addiction is disconnection. “When I'm disconnected from myself, then I'm going to look outside of myself for comfort and then use something or someone if I have no other skills … that's addiction”. “So, if I'm … Read More