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From Adrenaline addiction to authentic living – Part 2

By |2019-12-09T13:59:18+10:00December 9th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Adrenaline addiction can creep up on you and you may not even realize you suffer from this. A sure sign the push, push way of living. The hyper-arousal, the hyper-vigilant way of living. Living is survival for you. Then it's time to go from Adrenaline addiction to authentic living. Deciding you want to change this and live in a calmer way; a thriving way is a personal decision and often brought on because it’s affecting the quality of your marriage. Signs that you are overcoming adrenaline addiction Automatically drift off to sleep – Perhaps the easiest way to know that you’ve overcome … Read More

When do you say I do

By |2019-11-28T10:09:06+10:00November 25th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, FAQ, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

When do you say I do? Marriage can be one of the biggest decisions of your life and should not be rushed.  Sometimes I sit with couples and wonder why they got married in the first place.  They committed to someone who was displaying behaviour that worried them, upset them however they got married anyway. Commitment is a mindset.  Your behaviour should reflect this mindset. I believe it’s crucial for couples to have premarital counselling so it can help couples make an informed decision about their commitment to one another and commitment comes before anything else. How do you know if you’re … Read More

Prepare and cope with an empty nest

By |2019-10-07T20:31:21+10:00November 4th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

The transition to an empty nest and it can cause damage to a marriage and a relationship. It's important to prepare for when your children leave home. Ideally, to prepare and cope with an empty nest, it's best to start preparing years before they leave. Purpose and your role: Raising your children is not your purpose it is your role. I felt that my purpose in life was to be a mother and raise my children. Over the years I have changed that belief. I now understand that raising my children is my role and it's for me to find what my … Read More

The top four most argued issues ever

By |2019-12-26T20:24:29+10:00October 28th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

What do you think the top four most argued issues ever are? Yes, you guessed it: Sex Money Chores Children Partners will always have disagreements, however, it’s how you overcome conflict and this is dependent on your communication skills. Sex: Sex is such a common problem in marriage, not enough of it or not having it at all and many more reasons why sex can create conflict. Too tired, not in the mood and just mismatched libidos. Its critical couples address this asap to minimise issues in the future. Picking a time that is right where you are both relaxed, not distracted … Read More

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:40:54+10:00October 21st, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

Finding your purpose can improve your marriage. When you have a clear picture of your sense of purpose you are going to be more content and a happier partner. This can take your marriage to a new level because you are more enjoyable to be around and everyday issues you are going to deal with a lot better. You are better able to handle stress and with thus your self-worth increases. Knowing your unique role and listening to the beat of your own drum is the key. When you’re not living on purpose you can feel out of balance.  Sometimes a feeling … Read More

How to not lose your identity in your marriage

By |2019-10-07T20:45:09+10:00October 14th, 2019|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Life Coaching, Marriage Counselling, Self Esteem, Self help, Unlock all of you|

I work with a lot of individuals who have lost their identity. It’s very painful and you will be suffering greatly if you are feeling this. I did, and I know firsthand what it feels like and what is needed to come back from this. What is losing your identity, what does that mean? You cannot make decisions for yourself Loss of confidence and self-esteem A shell of your old life and who you were Given up your social life and your own interests You compromise your wants and needs for your partner Your feeling unhappy, negative, sad, angry or frustrated. You … Read More

“Unlock all of U” one key at a time Key 7 : Visualise or illustrate your growth work

By |2016-10-13T20:53:53+10:00May 22nd, 2012|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Unlock all of you|

Here are six ways I see Personal Growth Work all of them requiring some imagination to unlock your combination to “unlock u”. Pick one that speaks to you or make one up of your own to illustrate it. Have a visual of where you are going, what you are going to grow into in “unlocking all of u” 1. Growth work is like a snow ball that starts off small and gathers momentum as you continue to grow. Gets larger, faster and bigger the more growth work you do. Find a picture or paint one that illustrates this to you. 2. Louise … Read More

“Unlock all of U” one key at a time Key 6 Letting Go

By |2016-10-13T20:53:53+10:00April 26th, 2012|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Unlock all of you|

Key 6 Letting Go Letting go is a time to let go of the thoughts and feelings that do not support you. Perhaps you spend a lot of your day in the past and are not present in the here and now, the present moment. For a quality life you need to be present in the here and now, living in the moment. When you let go of the past and focus on living in the moment you will move closer to “unlocking all of u” What percentage of your life is in the present? Past Thoughts % Living in the moment … Read More

“Unlock all of U”, one key at a time Key 5 The 2 person Rule

By |2016-10-13T20:53:53+10:00March 21st, 2012|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Unlock all of you|

Key 5 "The 2 person rules" Rule 1 Never take things personally, what is said to you and the actions towards you. It’s all about the other person and what is going on for them in that moment. If you take things personally you can in a heartbeat have your positive mood changed when someone criticizes you or says something negative about you. You then become reactive and that means they have taken your power away. This is a skill that needs to be practiced to take a step back, take in a breath and actually wonder what is going on for … Read More

“Unlock all of U, one key at a time Key 4 : What do I beleive about myself

By |2016-10-13T20:53:53+10:00March 15th, 2012|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Unlock all of you|

Key 4 What do I believe about myself To “unlock all of U” you have to be totally honest with what you believe about yourself regardless of how difficult it is to acknowledge. Below are some common beliefs that people think about themselves. Many are ingrained in you from a young age and become your reality without you even realizing it. • I am not good enough • I am not important • I am not pretty/handsome • I am not intelligent • I am not worthy • I was not meant to be born • I am not confident • I … Read More