Couples counselling is useful where there is tension between two people, usually — but not always — partners in a relationship. The best chances of success occur when both individuals enter into the counselling openly and in an honest and committed way. Each partner has to be prepared to look both inwards to themselves, as well as to the other, if they are to get what they want out of this kind of work. This can be hard for many people and I will help and support this process.
I will not ‘take sides’ with anyone but will listen without prejudice and encourage each of you to do the same. Oftentimes, this safe, confidential, supportive and ‘blame free’ environment enables each person in the relationship to lower their defenses. Only when we really listen will someone feel heard. When we feel heard we may feel valued and notice that our feelings are being acknowledged. Real progress can be made on tackling the issues at hand.