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Personal Trainer for Couples

By |2018-07-18T11:48:43+10:00July 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

What if the thinking around couples counselling could change?  Seeking Couples Counselling like your weekly PT workout.  I bet you don’t keep that a secret that you go to your PT? Happy couple smiling at camera at the beach There is such a shame, secrecy around seeing a couple’s therapist.  I’m so hoping in time that this will change.  We seek support for our physical and tell everyone as we are proud of it.  What about the emotional and mental.? For many people there is a fear in having couples counselling.  To visit a counsellor for some people is saying … Read More

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Im Single, Now What?

By |2018-07-18T09:10:39+10:00July 18th, 2018|General|

So, your now single and perhaps its been 10, 20 30 or 40 years since you were single.  To say it’s an adjustment is an understatement.  Research says that for every 10 years of a relationship 1 year of grieving is needed for healing.  So, work it out, 20 years with a partner needs approximately 2 years of grieving and processing. A common statement that comes in my counselling room from single people is “I should be further along than this”.  And I totally disagree.  You are where you are and cutting yourself some slack and having some loving kindness for yourself … Read More

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Is stress slowing killing you?

By |2018-06-18T14:45:11+10:00June 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

When you encounter stress, a physical change take place in your body. These changes allow you to react quickly and to use your body's resources to cope with the stress. The changes that occur can be either helpful or harmful. Their effect depends on your response the length of time they last coping strategies, you use. 3 Stages of Stress As your body copes with stress, it must adapt, or adjust, to the stressor and the changes it causes. This process of adapting, called the general adaptation syndrome, occurs in three stages. The three stages are; Alarm stage Resistance stage Exhaustions stage … Read More

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Identifying your critical tapes that create stress

By |2018-06-14T12:40:08+10:00June 14th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

How willing are you to acknowledge unhelpful attitudes and beliefs that you may have? Some of these may be unexamined ways of thinking about yourself and your life that were given to you by parents and other early caregivers. They may not really be your attitudes and values, but they were put there so early on, it is hard to tell that they do not belong with you. You can recognise them because they are often distorted, exaggerated, self-critical, or self-defeating “tapes” that re-play over and over again in your head, causing personal anxiety, self-doubt, stress and depression. Some examples are: Rigidity … Read More

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Resolve Marriage Issues Early

By |2018-05-02T12:36:10+10:00May 2nd, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling|

Working with couples for 10 years now I often see a theme that occurs in relationships. The relationship is no longer a priority, as important as it use to be.  If this continues long term it can be damaging to the quality of the relationship and the longevity. Focusing on some very practical easy skills can create enormous change in your relationships if you do not leave it too late to try.  Prepare/enrich is a terrific resource to begin making some changes. DAILY DIALOGUE AND DAILY COMPLIMENTS Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your … Read More

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Acceptance is a choice, not a feeling.

By |2018-05-02T11:51:24+10:00April 27th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Acceptance is a journey that starts with a conscious decision. When we are suffering we have pain.  There is a gap between our reality and what we want.  When acceptance is lived it softens the pain.  A death, divorce, loss of a job, any change that has occurred that we are struggling with.  We may not like it or want it but its out of our control.  What is in our control is how we accept it. There are tools that can help us progress, but the process is unique for each one of us. You may need to try some different … Read More

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Lonely in your relationship?

By |2018-03-29T10:59:31+10:00March 29th, 2018|General|

This is very common and a pattern that couples fall into.  Both feel disconnected and lonely and not talking about it.  All they talk about is the kids and planning and not too much else.  Couples fall into parallel lives living alongside each other like roommates or flat mates doing their own thing.  And they can’t remember the last night they had a date night. Have you heard that expression if you keep doing the same thing you will get the same results.  Try something different before it becomes serious and you end up going you're different ways. Here’s some ideas: Tools: … Read More

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Learning to be happy where you are

By |2018-03-29T10:14:45+10:00March 29th, 2018|General|

  I will be happy when I get the better job, partner, house, car, bank balance, health, blah, blah blah. You’re setting yourself up for disaster.  Have you noticed when you get the better job, relationship, house you initially feel good but then the same mind filling chatter occurs and feelings of frustration, agitation, discontentment and more. It’s a continuous cycle of thinking its out there your happiness and if I keep searching I will find it.  If I try harder, work harder, push harder it will happen this happiness. Stop right there. Happiness is an inside job, your inner work that … Read More

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Create “Your Best Life”

By |2018-03-20T14:24:45+10:00March 20th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Life Coaching, Self Esteem|

To create your ultimate life takes commitment, time and daily practice.  Intuition is crucial as you will trust your inner voice and what is right for you. Start each day with the intention of being intuitive, of listening to your inner voice. A great way to do this is by using affirmations, which are positive statements that we repeat over and over again. Affirmations can be used in any area of your life. They reinforce to your mind the outcome that you are looking to achieve. For example, choose an affirmation such as ‘I love and approve of myself’ or one relating … Read More

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Are you living from the head up?

By |2017-12-13T17:06:29+10:00December 13th, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, General, Self Esteem|

Are you numb, show little emotion, going thru the motions and don't feel much? You may be living from the head up which means you overthink and are just living in your head.  A monkey mind? We sometimes do that due to trauma, extended period of stress, as a child not being able to say what you fell and think. Its fixable if you want to.  A great place to begin is acknowledging what you're doing and deciding you want to change.  Sometimes you may need support with therapy or you may be able to work on this yourself. Many people need … Read More

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