It still surprises me the amount of people who do not regularly self-reflect.  I believe it’s crucial and a very powerful tool to improve the quality of your life.  How often do you put up with and continue to do the same thing because its routine or habit?  Self-improvement ensures you are feeling fulfilled as much as possible. Woman meditating during life coaching on the beach during sunset

5 helpful questions to ask yourself include;

  1. Am I living true to myself, the authentic me?

“A lot of the conflict you have in your life exists simply because you’re not living in alignment; you’re not be being true to yourself.” – Steve

Sometimes we can be a little older before we get this concept.  Taking full responsibility of ourselves and knowing whether we are being dishonest with ourselves and not living by the beat of our own drum.  We do have complete control over what we do and who we want to be but sometimes can get lost.  In a relationship trying to make the other person happy and always pleasing them can set you up for loosing yourself.  To the point you end up in a counsellor’s room saying, “I don’t know who I am, I’ve lost myself”.  Figuring out what you’re doing, what you want and what you’re willing to do to get what you want.  If you are doing something that is going to cause you regret down the road, work out what you can do to fix this.

2.  Am I waking up in the morning ready to take on the day

If you’re not you need to self-reflect and its really showing you the level of your happiness and for you to take notice.  If your anything like me you keep trying to make something work and in time it comes at a cost to you, particularly your health. The morning when you’re lying in bed and you’ve just woken up and your mulling over your day is a great time to ask yourself “Am I Happy?” Going deeper into that and what action steps need to happen for that to change. 

3.  Am I going to sleep negative?

Have you noticed if you go to sleep negative you wake up negative?  On self-reflection try and notice a pattern, pinpoint, laser in to what’s causing it.  And like a lot of us we just put up with.  Again, overtime it wears you down.  Take some action steps to begin working on the problem.

I work a lot with couples and often couples leave it too late to work on the negativity in the relationship.  If they had caught it earlier enough and done the appropriate work needed the outcome could be very different.

4 .Am I pulling away from relationships?

We can take relationships for granted and don’t put the energy in that is required to maintain a relationship. Perhaps you have moved away, got a job that takes a lot of your time or you’ve been ill.  Doesn’t matter what it is but relationships take time and effort whether its your intimate partner or friends and family.  Self-reflection can help you prioritise what’s important to you.

5.  Am I taking care of myself physically

As we get older our energy levels can lesson, our metabolism so its very important to keep a level of fitness.  Keeping an image of what you want and what that may look like in a few years’ time can be very helpful.

Its endless the questions you can ask yourself.  More can include

  • Am I letting matters out of my control stress me out?
  • Am I taking anything for granted?
  • Am I feeling gratitude?
  • Am I doing my best, working to the best of my ability?