Is it time to do something different?
If you keep doing the same thing you will keep getting the same result. All couples face challenges and rough patches. Things such as frequent disagreements, differences in values, suspicion or evidence of infidelity and financial pressures can all cause difficulties.
Specific marriage problems can include
- poor communication between you and your partner
- marriage neglect, resentment building
- controlling behavior
- verbal & physical abuse
- imbalance of power in your relationship
- lack of intimacy & sexual fulfillment
- problems from childhood
- parenting difficulties which affect your marriage
Every marriage can run into problems. Is this you?
- Are you struggling to have the marriage that you really want?
- Does it seem that you and your partner are constantly fighting?
- Have you discovered your partner has been cheating?
- Do you find that you are “putting each other down” or name calling?
- Are there periods of time when you withdraw from one another in a cold wall of silence?
- Do you find that your partner is constantly finding something wrong with you to complain about?
Marriage counselling can help you learn
to resolve differences without hurting each other. Marriage counselling helps you rebuild trust, intimacy and love.
Marriage counselling will help you learn to
Commit to one another in a way that will enhance the degree of success the marriage achieves and the satisfaction that each partner enjoys.
Show compassion to one another within your marriage.
Perform daily acts of kindness to one another.
Share your feelings with one another with care.
Maintain self-respect and respect for each other in your marriage.
Negotiate effectively for win-win outcomes.
Recognise when your “buttons” have been pushed and take personal responsibility for your emotions.
Let go of taking things so personally.
Give and receive affection regularly.
Take time out together just to have fun.
Foster long term trust by being open and honest within your marriage.
Come to an understanding that the marriage is over and end it with dignity and respect.
“What can I expect in my first marriage counselling session?”
In your first marriage counselling session we’ll begin by listening to each partner’s view of the marriage and their perceived problems or issues in the marriage. During your session you will be asked to identify the main frustrations that you each have with one another.
This is to form a basis of intentions to be set regarding what CHANGES are appropriate to make to the dynamic patterns of your marriage. In other words, how do you get in your own way and each other’s way of maintaining a loving connection within your marriage?
It is important that this process is seen as a step towards positive change, rather than an opportunity to blame each other. It is simply useful in identifying where the changes in your marriage need to be implemented and how.
How marriage counselling works
The aim of marriage counselling is to help partners who are stuck in patterns of conflict find ways of communicating with each other, to decide how to solve their problems and to achieve their goals. Marriage counselling will help you discuss your thoughts and feelings, in order to help you gain a better understanding of your own, and each other’s position.
Marriage counselling will seek information about the history of the marriage or the partners’ personal histories. Marriage counselling will be able to highlight misunderstandings in the couple’s communication. This process itself motivates a change in the way each partner feels and behaves toward the other.
Marriage counselling will also offer a new perspective on the issues at hand or suggest a direction for therapy to help both partners achieve their goals. This may include the teaching of strategies to help improve communications. Each partner’s active participation is vital in promoting the success of marriage counselling.
By providing a safe and supportive environment in which clients can process distressing emotions and learn new skills to break unproductive behaviour patterns, marriage counselling encourages the development of healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.
Experience has shown that the earlier a couple seeks help the greater the likelihood of a successful outcome, so if you have been experiencing difficulties in your marriage it is important to realize that no problem is to small (or too big) to bring to marriage counselling.
Marriage counselling helps couples more truthfully know themselves and each other. This leads to a better understanding of how their inner selves are affecting their day-to-day, outer lives.
Marriage counselling offers a space in which difficult feelings can be explored between the couple without judgment or blame. A marriage counsellor’s role is to provide a safe and informed place in which a couple can become clear about what is happening between them, allowing them to make healthy choices. Therefore, couples can move on and make decisions with greater clarity and understanding.
Power of Change Counselling & Coaching’s aim is to provide safe, supportive and confidential marriage counselling in a peaceful setting allowing you to explore who you have been, who you are and who you may want to be.