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Couples counselling creates a safe environment for couples to talk through issues within the relationship.

Couples counselling is not a test but a place where couples can become clear about what is happening between them.

Helen has helped hundreds of couples, throughout the Redlands to work through difficult times. Helen’s private office in Cleveland is a haven for couples undergoing counselling, helping couples to enjoy a happy partnership or end a difficult relationship.

The following blog posts provide information to help couples. If you would some more personalised strategies, contact Helen Harrison on 0439 889 969.

The 4 most damaging behaviors in relationships

By |2018-12-18T11:43:53+00:00December 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Self Esteem|

Criticism Defensiveness Contempt Stonewalling Criticism over time in a relationship will wear it down and erode it's self esteem. This behaviour doesn’t make for a happy relationship.   Criticism is when you globally wrong your partner.  For example, “you always ignore me in the afternoons” or “you never care about me.”  It’s an attack which says there is something globally wrong with your partner.  This is not supportive in a relationship and if it occurs regularly over time it is corrosive. Now there are times when feedback is necessary which is not criticizing but complaining.  Complaining is feedback and is not corrosive.  For … Read More

“Expectation is the root of all misery”

By |2018-10-25T12:09:26+00:00October 25th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling|

“If she just started doing ……………. then all would be good”! “I should be further along than this” “Why doesn’t he listen, really listen?” Hearing a theme here? All expectations of yourself or of your partner creates disappointment, heart break and in time erodes relationships.  Having realistic expectations helps you accept the flaws of others and creates less pain in you.  We need to take responsibility for our own life’s before we can expect others to do the same. We all have expectations in our lives of what we want and who we want to become.  That is great on some level, … Read More

Why did I have an affair?

By |2018-10-23T16:10:53+00:00October 23rd, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Marriage Counselling|

It’s so very common I’m sorry to say and by the time couples are seeing me the cat is out of the bag and the relationship is in crises. It’s extremely sad to experience the pain individuals go thru. It’s never going to stop, there will always be people who have affairs. Why you ask? Little Emotional Connection: The common reason I see is the lack of emotional connection. When you marry and start your life together your deeply in love and focused on each other. Your partner is a priority and then other areas of your life start to take your … Read More

Do I stay or Go?

By |2018-08-23T16:35:24+00:00August 23rd, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

So your marriage is in trouble and your not sure how much longer you can live with the unhappiness and disconnection your feeling. Most of what keeps us stuck are the fearful thoughts running through our minds. To attempt to make sense of what is likely 60,000+ thoughts each day, we begin talking to others...and all that talking ismany times, the very thing that keeps us stuck. stuck in the pain... stuck in the stories... How do you move forward and gain clarity and direction? Firstly pick very carefully who you talk to too discuss your marriage. 1. People who will not … Read More

Personal Trainer for Couples

By |2018-07-18T11:48:43+00:00July 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

What if the thinking around couples counselling could change?  Seeking Couples Counselling like your weekly PT workout.  I bet you don’t keep that a secret that you go to your PT? Happy couple smiling at camera at the beach There is such a shame, secrecy around seeing a couple’s therapist.  I’m so hoping in time that this will change.  We seek support for our physical and tell everyone as we are proud of it.  What about the emotional and mental.? For many people there is a fear in having couples counselling.  To visit a counsellor for some people is saying … Read More

Is stress slowing killing you?

By |2018-06-18T14:45:11+00:00June 18th, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

When you encounter stress, a physical change take place in your body. These changes allow you to react quickly and to use your body's resources to cope with the stress. The changes that occur can be either helpful or harmful. Their effect depends on your response the length of time they last coping strategies, you use. 3 Stages of Stress As your body copes with stress, it must adapt, or adjust, to the stressor and the changes it causes. This process of adapting, called the general adaptation syndrome, occurs in three stages. The three stages are; Alarm stage Resistance stage Exhaustions stage … Read More

Resolve Marriage Issues Early

By |2018-05-02T12:36:10+00:00May 2nd, 2018|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, Marriage Counselling|

Working with couples for 10 years now I often see a theme that occurs in relationships. The relationship is no longer a priority, as important as it use to be.  If this continues long term it can be damaging to the quality of the relationship and the longevity. Focusing on some very practical easy skills can create enormous change in your relationships if you do not leave it too late to try.  Prepare/enrich is a terrific resource to begin making some changes. DAILY DIALOGUE AND DAILY COMPLIMENTS Daily Dialogue is an intentional effort to talk about your relationship, rather than discussing your … Read More

Tune up your relationship today

By |2017-11-14T09:47:37+00:00November 14th, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General|

How does your relationship stack up? Start a conversation today ( yes we all put it off to wait for the right time) with your partner to elevate your relationship. A relationship takes time and commitment and we all deserve to have a fulfilling relationship. If you’re not in one start asking yourself questions as to what can I do to change the situation. Create the space for you both to share how you are feeling. Here's some ideas to tune up your relationship. Start with one and work towards doing more in the future * Spend quality time together where you … Read More

How to move on after a breakup

By |2017-08-23T14:12:07+00:00August 23rd, 2017|Counselling in the Redlands, Couples, General, Self Esteem|

There is know one easy way to move on after a breakup.  For most people its extremely painful, heartbreaking and rocks you to your core.  Its a journey that starts with a conscious decision that you have let go. There are tools that can help you progress, but the process is unique for each one of you. You may need to try some different approaches to find what is right for you. It requires patience and might take months or even years. The process of acceptance of your new reality  takes hard work and commitment. You may feel uncomfortable at times during … Read More